Saying "I love you" with a toilet: of indirect displays of love in Chinese families – General

www.speakingofchina.com — Nobody really asked why that toilet was built before Chinese New Year 2003 — at what would later become my in-laws home.

It is like many things in Chinese culture, where “I love you” is an unspoken phrase that finds its voice in the sumptuous feasts that fill the dinner table, the hongbao stuffed with crisp, red RMB bills, the boxes of green tea and smoked tofu that friends and relatives forcibly stuff into every last empty corner of your luggage.

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Saying "I love you" with a toilet: of indirect displays of love in Chinese families

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